Five Ways to Improve Your Relationship With Exercise

Exercise should be a tool to improve your mental and physical health, not something that causes feelings of failure or stress. As a mom you have limited time and energy so exercise should be something that brings you joy and positive feelings. You deserve your relationship with exercise to be a healthy one. Here are five ways to improve your relationship with exercise:

1. Drop the “No Excuses” Mentality- whether you’re pregnant, newly postpartum, a mom of a toddler or with kids in school...you’re going to have barriers to exercise. You’re going to have unexpected things get in the way of your plan to workout. With a “no excuses” mentality, you’re sure to feel bad about missing a workout. Those negative feelings are the beginning to a negative relationship with exercise. Stop. Instead work on a strategy to plan for barriers so that you don’t feel bad when they occur.

2. Appreciate Physical Activity-aerobic and strength training is crucial to good health and fitness, however there will be times in your life where “exercise”, which I consider a structured session of physical activity, is less feasible. However things like going for family walks, biking instead of taking the train to work, playing with your kids on the playground...are all ways to keep you active outside of a fitness class or gym. If you choose to appreciate physical activity, your relationship with exercise will seem less stressful.

3. Be realistic: during my consultations, I always ask what’s realistic in terms of how much time you can dedicate to exercise. Factors such as childcare, work, and child naps or help from a partner or other caregiver are always considered. Rather than choosing an arbitrary number, like “I’m going to workout 3 days per week”, ask yourself what’s realistic. This will help you avoid the frustrations of not being able to meet expectations. Personalize your fitness for a good relationship with exercise.

4. Join a community- for exercise to become a habit, surround yourself with people that are already doing what you’re hoping to do. Whether it be a virtual community or Facebook group, or a studio, fitness class or run group...put yourself in a place where you feel supported, motivated and understood. Your environment should be positive in order to have a positive relationship with exercise.

5. Find your why- your reason for exercise before pregnancy is probably different than it is now. Make a list of all of the benefits from exercise. Check yourself to make sure none of them induce negative thoughts. In other words, instead of “so I can fit in my clothes”, try “so I can play with my kids when they ask”. Eliminate any “whys” that are not positive.

How Moms Can Feel More Confident in Their Postpartum Body at the Gym

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Body positivity is a difficult for many people. While social media is better at embracing different types of bodies, with more and more influencers and celebrities showing off their real physiques, that doesn’t mean we don’t have far to go.

As a new mom, it can feel challenging to be confident in your body after birth. Your body has gone through an amazing process, but even with all the respect we have for its ability postpartum, the feeling of being disconnected to it and it looking different than before can impact your confidence.

The idea of a post-baby body can put many new moms off from going to the gym altogether. Here are some suggestions as you begin to regain confidence.

Wear clothes you feel great in.

This might mean tighter leggings and tops where the compression helps you feel supported, or baggier clothes with a little more wiggle room. You should wear whatever makes you feel confident and allows you to perform the exercise correctly.

When shopping for gym clothes after having your baby, you could consider brands that support women who embrace their curves, like Curves n Combatboots.

Book a personal training session.

Personal trainers don’t just exist for fitness fanatics - they exist for anyone who wants to feel good in their body again and needs that additional support. Giving birth can make your body feel foreign to you, and that disconnect is often troubling for new moms. 

New moms might feel best working with a trainer that has been through pregnancy and is knowledgeable in postnatal fitness. Connecting with a fitness professional that understands how overwhelming it can feel to return to exercise, can help you to feel more and more confident and address your postpartum needs.

Workout in a community with other moms

Being around like-minded individuals can provide the additional support and confidence nudge you need. Exercise should make you feel good and shouldn’t be a source of stress. Find a community that you feel comfortable around.

Final Thoughts

Body confidence doesn’t happen overnight; it can only be achieved through constant work to find self acceptance. If you are returning to the gym after birth, try these tips to feel your best self!

Exercise for Mental Health: How Much? How often?

To meet the physical demands of pregnancy and caring for a baby exercise is essential. You'll feel stronger, and more confident and be able to keep up with your kids throughout all stages of motherhood. However, the mental health benefits of exercise shouldn't be forgotten. Prenatal anxiety and postpartum depression during are common. Exercise should be considered a useful tool in preventing and coping with depressive symptoms.

In analyzing results of over 800,000 people as it relates to mental health and exercise, researchers found that exercisers reported nearly 43% fewer mental health burdens than non-exercisers.

So what type of exercises seemed to provide the most benefit?

• Popular sports

• Cycling

• Aerobics/Gym exercises

• Yoga/Tai Chi

How Much? Now as a mom, it can be hard to find the time for exercise, but the good news is that the strongest correlation of exercise and mental health was with sessions of 30-60 minutes. I think it’s fair to say that if you’re finding it stressful to find time to exercise then the shorter end of that range is reasonable. There was no added benefit to sessions longer than 60 minutes.

What about intensity? The study found vigorous exercise was linked to better mental health outcomes, but I’d recommend monitoring your intensities and how you feel post-exercise. Often if we are already overwhelmed and stressed, recovering from high-intensity exercise can be more difficult. This is especially important to consider if you’re a new mom and not getting much sleep, or pregnant and feeling more exhausted. You may find that more moderate-intensity exercise feels better both physically and mentally.

Recommended frequency? The study found that working out 3-5 times per week was the most beneficial. If you’re a busy mom, I’d suggest aiming for 2-3 structured strength sessions per week and then filling in the other days with “physical activity” like walking, playing with your kids at the park, or structured aerobic sessions like biking or running if you have the time and energy. Remember the physical activity guidelines suggest at least 150 minutes per week to meet health guidelines.

So Mama, if you’re looking to reap not just the physical, but also the mental benefits start prioritizing fitness. Remember exercise is not a luxury, it’s a necessity. Please also remember that exercise is a tool and not the only treatment option. If you’re feeling anxious, depressed or experiencing PTSD after having a baby, you are not alone and should seek a referral from your doctor, or look into a virtual therapy company.

8 Tips For Moms Returning to Exercise Post Birth

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Whether you’re a new mother who’s taking her first steps into exercise after some months away or you’ve never had a consistent fitness routine, you’ve come to the right place. Exercise for someone post-birth, with new priorities and lack of time can feel impossible. Here are some things to keep in mind and help get you started:

1. Listen to your body

Before you take a step onto a treadmill or pick up those weights, do a self check-in and make sure you’re getting back into working out for the right reasons. How do you feel? Are you exhausted and pushing yourself too far, or are you feeling ready for some movement? After birth, your mental and physical healing and health are the most important.

2. See your doctor 

Before increasing the intensity of your movement, make sure that you are healed and ask specific questions at your postpartum visit regarding pelvic floor and diastasis recti. Keep in mind that your postpartum “clearance” for exercise isn’t a green light to jump back into old routines. Consult with a postnatal expert to return to exercise in a safe and progressive way.

3. Start with walking

When you first get back to exercising, take small steps, literally. Getting out there and taking a walk will boost your ability to carve out time for exercise and identify any post-birth aches and pains that need to be addressed before anything more vigorous. You can incorporate some time with your baby as well by bringing the stroller and enjoying the great outdoors together. Equally, if you’re feeling like you need some time for yourself, it’s a great excuse to pop your headphones in and take a walk, listening to your favorite music or podcast. 

4. Get planning 

Whether your child is 2 months or 12, finding time to exercise can be hard. Finding a spot between naps feeds, and playtime isn’t easy. So, as much as you can, plan exercise into your existing routine. With smaller babies, you can time a walk outside or a yoga class into their nap schedule. With older babies who are in a high chair, consider getting a workout in while they eat a meal and entertain themselves. And if it’s really tricky, incorporate them into the workout by lying them on the yoga mat next to you. By making a plan, you can write it up on a wall planner to remind you throughout the day. 

5. Find the right time for you 

After you’ve started to do a bit of exercise, ask yourself, what time works best for you? Do you enjoy waking up an hour earlier to work out before your child wakes up? Or do you like to do it during lunchtime? When do you feel the most energetic? When are you less likely to be interrupted? Finding a time that works for you means you’re much more likely to actually get up and exercise when that time hits. 

6. Consider your pelvic floor 

Your pelvic floor is a group of muscles at the base of your ‘core’ muscles. Pregnancy and birth can impact these muscles in various ways. You’ll be a better exerciser with a strong core, and weak pelvic floor muscles can make exercise uncomfortable by causing pressure or even incontinence. Be sure to consult with a pelvic health physical therapist if this is a concern for you. They may recommend pelvic floor exercises before exercise, or better yet incorporated into your fitness routine. 

7. Spend time outdoors 

Finding activities and exercises to do outdoors is good for the body, but it’s being increasingly touted as good for the mind. Your physical and mental health is so important. Studies have shown how beneficial it is for good mental health to spend time outdoors. On a sunny day, you also have the added bonus of some free vitamin D! 

8. Find workouts that you enjoy 

They say if you enjoy your job, you’ll never work a day in your life. Well, the same applies to exercise. If you find a type of physical activity you enjoy, then you will look forward to moving your body and exercise. Think outside the box and consider tennis, cycling, or even rollerblading - best rollerblades for women. 

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