How Can You Find Time For Exercise in Your Busy Mom Life?

Running a business, grocery shopping, making dinner, cleaning the house, spending quality time with my daughter, making time to catch up with friends, attending birthdays and weddings, sleep...where do I find time to workout? The answer is I don't "find" the time, I "make" the time. If your life as a mom is anything like I just described, then you most likely will never "find" time either. This however, doesn't make working out impossible, and doesn't mean you should skip exercise until your schedule is "less crazy". What it means is that you're going to have to shift your mentality, and use some strategy to make physical activity a constant in your busy mom life. Exercise is not a luxury. Physical activity is essential for your mental and physical health so let's take a look at some tips that will help you "make" time for exercise.

My first piece of advice works well for moms who are adjusting to a new and unpredictable schedule. This could be when you’re going from maternity leave back to work, when your child starts kindergarten, or if your partner gets a new job with different hours. You will be less likely to succeed in transition times if you try to stick to your old routine. Instead, I can recommend a better strategy:

The first strategy is to choose 2-3 exercises that require minimal equipment and can be done anywhere. As you learn your new schedule, you’ll find unexpected pockets of time (even if just a few minutes). Commit to sprinkling in those 2-3 exercises when you can. Once you’re successful with 2-3 exercises, perhaps you can take an extra few minutes and add another 1-2 exercises. Will this strategy get you in the best shape of your life? No, but it will keep you consistent so you won’t have to start over, and it will allow you to trial new exercise times to see what would be best for your new workout schedule.

My second piece of advice works well for moms who multitask and keep running to-do lists. My suggestion is to organize your list with the top five being your absolute priorities. Make these priorities specific. For example, if work is a priority, what part of your work is the most important? For me, it would be time at the fitness studio and planning personalized programs for people. Another priority might be managing your household, but again make it specific. Is paying bills more important than doing the dishes, or is picking up the playroom more important than organizing the spice rack? I know, you’re probably thinking that this will never work for you because everything is important and definitely more than five things are priority. But the truth is that you’re already making these decisions every day. You’re always doing one thing instead of another, I’m just saying be more deliberate about what takes the top of your list. Kids I’m sure are on your list every day, so again be specific. Is it important to do bath and bedtime with them every night or do you prioritize quality time playing outdoors on the weekends? Your priority list can and should change. For me, it usually changes every week. Yours might change every couple of months or every day. Whenever your priorities change, make a new list. You’re going to use that list as a guide. Your top five always come first and then you “find” time for all of the other items that aren’t your top priorities. So yes, I might have 10 emails in my inbox that I want to respond to, but if it’s not in my top five, but walking is, then those 10 emails wait until after I walk. This is a way to hold yourself accountable and do the things that matter most, first. Exercise won’t always make the list, and that’s OK. By knowing that, you won’t stress over not getting in a workout. However, if you find that exercise never makes the list, then I urge you to take a look at what else you’re doing for your physical and mental health, and whatever those things are, keep those as a priority.

The last piece of advice works well for any mom who doesn’t do everything herself. My recommendation is to look at exercise as you would everything else. You ask for help with your taxes, you enlist a professional to do your hair, you divide the household chores, and you vent to your girlfriends…support is needed in so many areas of your life, and fitness should be no different. Whether it’s childcare support, being more efficient by working with an exercise professional, or having a gym buddy, you'll be more consistent with exercise if you can lean on someone else.

To wrap things up, the take-home point is that time for exercise is rarely going to just appear. It’s always going to come from how you prioritize your daily activities and how adaptable you are with the constant transitions in your life as a mom. It won’t always be easy, and sometimes it won’t even be possible, but you have to “make” the time. I don’t want you to have piles of folded clean clothes if the exchange is ending your day with back pain. I don’t want you to feel proud that you’ve never missed bath time if that means you can’t feel proud of how you’re caring for your body. I don’t want you to feel strong at work because you meet every deadline if that means you feel mentally weak because you don’t have a way to de-stress. If you’re a mom and want to make exercise part of your life, you occasionally have to drop the ball in one area, you need to determine what’s most important to you, and you have to be adaptable.