Five Ways to Improve Your Relationship With Exercise

Exercise should be a tool to improve your mental and physical health, not something that causes feelings of failure or stress. As a mom you have limited time and energy so exercise should be something that brings you joy and positive feelings. You deserve your relationship with exercise to be a healthy one. Here are five ways to improve your relationship with exercise:

1. Drop the “No Excuses” Mentality- whether you’re pregnant, newly postpartum, a mom of a toddler or with kids in school...you’re going to have barriers to exercise. You’re going to have unexpected things get in the way of your plan to workout. With a “no excuses” mentality, you’re sure to feel bad about missing a workout. Those negative feelings are the beginning to a negative relationship with exercise. Stop. Instead work on a strategy to plan for barriers so that you don’t feel bad when they occur.

2. Appreciate Physical Activity-aerobic and strength training is crucial to good health and fitness, however there will be times in your life where “exercise”, which I consider a structured session of physical activity, is less feasible. However things like going for family walks, biking instead of taking the train to work, playing with your kids on the playground...are all ways to keep you active outside of a fitness class or gym. If you choose to appreciate physical activity, your relationship with exercise will seem less stressful.

3. Be realistic: during my consultations, I always ask what’s realistic in terms of how much time you can dedicate to exercise. Factors such as childcare, work, and child naps or help from a partner or other caregiver are always considered. Rather than choosing an arbitrary number, like “I’m going to workout 3 days per week”, ask yourself what’s realistic. This will help you avoid the frustrations of not being able to meet expectations. Personalize your fitness for a good relationship with exercise.

4. Join a community- for exercise to become a habit, surround yourself with people that are already doing what you’re hoping to do. Whether it be a virtual community or Facebook group, or a studio, fitness class or run group...put yourself in a place where you feel supported, motivated and understood. Your environment should be positive in order to have a positive relationship with exercise.

5. Find your why- your reason for exercise before pregnancy is probably different than it is now. Make a list of all of the benefits from exercise. Check yourself to make sure none of them induce negative thoughts. In other words, instead of “so I can fit in my clothes”, try “so I can play with my kids when they ask”. Eliminate any “whys” that are not positive.

Exercise for Mental Health: How Much? How often?

To meet the physical demands of pregnancy and caring for a baby exercise is essential. You'll feel stronger, and more confident and be able to keep up with your kids throughout all stages of motherhood. However, the mental health benefits of exercise shouldn't be forgotten. Prenatal anxiety and postpartum depression during are common. Exercise should be considered a useful tool in preventing and coping with depressive symptoms.

In analyzing results of over 800,000 people as it relates to mental health and exercise, researchers found that exercisers reported nearly 43% fewer mental health burdens than non-exercisers.

So what type of exercises seemed to provide the most benefit?

• Popular sports

• Cycling

• Aerobics/Gym exercises

• Yoga/Tai Chi

How Much? Now as a mom, it can be hard to find the time for exercise, but the good news is that the strongest correlation of exercise and mental health was with sessions of 30-60 minutes. I think it’s fair to say that if you’re finding it stressful to find time to exercise then the shorter end of that range is reasonable. There was no added benefit to sessions longer than 60 minutes.

What about intensity? The study found vigorous exercise was linked to better mental health outcomes, but I’d recommend monitoring your intensities and how you feel post-exercise. Often if we are already overwhelmed and stressed, recovering from high-intensity exercise can be more difficult. This is especially important to consider if you’re a new mom and not getting much sleep, or pregnant and feeling more exhausted. You may find that more moderate-intensity exercise feels better both physically and mentally.

Recommended frequency? The study found that working out 3-5 times per week was the most beneficial. If you’re a busy mom, I’d suggest aiming for 2-3 structured strength sessions per week and then filling in the other days with “physical activity” like walking, playing with your kids at the park, or structured aerobic sessions like biking or running if you have the time and energy. Remember the physical activity guidelines suggest at least 150 minutes per week to meet health guidelines.

So Mama, if you’re looking to reap not just the physical, but also the mental benefits start prioritizing fitness. Remember exercise is not a luxury, it’s a necessity. Please also remember that exercise is a tool and not the only treatment option. If you’re feeling anxious, depressed or experiencing PTSD after having a baby, you are not alone and should seek a referral from your doctor, or look into a virtual therapy company.